If you're reading this, it's likely that you or someone you know is struggling with attachment issues. Perhaps you feel like you can't get close to others or maybe you find yourself being overly clingy in relationships. Whatever the case may be, it's important to know...

In order for a relationship to be successful, both parties need to feel validated in communication. This means that each person needs to feel like their thoughts and feelings are being heard and understood by the other person. If one party feels that their partner is...

We all want to be in a happy and healthy relationship, which can be difficult to maintain. Have you ever wondered why? It may have a lot to do with attachment theory. Attachment theory is the idea that how we relate to others is based on how we were cared for as...

Being betrayed by your partner is one of the most painful experiences you can go through. If you're struggling to heal from infidelity trauma, know that you're not alone. In this blog post, we'll explore five tips that can help couples heal and move forward after an...

Last week, we talked about the love addiction again (with a new IG post, please read the previous blog post about love addiction here) and how it is often a coexisting condition for a sex addiction and/or a Narcissism. I have talked about the traits of a narcissist...

You’re reading this article because you’re going through a tough time. You’ve been betrayed and hurt by someone that you loved, trusted or admired. You may be asking yourself “why me?” or thinking about what might have happened if things had gone differently. The...

  This is one of the major issues in a relationship, and it can be very difficult to deal with. The passive-aggressive partner may act like everything’s fine on the surface by agreeing with you or go along with what you say, but then later they turn around and do...

Working as a relationship therapist, I often see clients with Borderline Personality Disorders (BPD) both in an individual and in a couples treatment.   My individual clients with BPD/BPD traits find me after years of difficult and unsuccessful relationships, feeling...

“You are not responsible for other’s feelings.” A lot of my clients recite this quote to me when I am doing EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy) sessions with my couples. I agree. I believe that all of us are responsible for our own experience, as I talked about in my...

Working as an EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy) couples therapist, I find that a large portion of my work tends to be demystifying the actions or statements made by each partner. In this article, we are going to look at some of the common things that both anxious and...

I’ve been getting a lot of questions about partners who are not emotionally available. A lot of my clients ask me to decipher their partners’ unpredictable and inconsistent behaviors. So I’ve decided to write a blogpost about the tips I give to my clients. Here are 15...

Are you being gaslighted? -7 different ways to tell if you are being gaslighted.   We talked about gaslighting briefly in my last blog post (5 ways to set healthy boundaries in romantic relationships). I wanted to dive in a little deeper with the topic in this...

One of the issues my clients struggle with the most is setting healthy boundaries with others, especially with their romantic partners. What is a boundary, you ask? Imagine having a protective bubble that you can surround/shield yourself with. You can make it as thick...

Have you heard of love addiction? I first learned about love addiction at a sex therapy training I took years ago. We were talking about sex addiction and someone asked about the difference between love and sex addiction to the instructor. The brief explanation was...

Cheating or infidelity can happen in any relationship or marriage. And there are several different reasons why people cheat, including; lack of sex or sexual satisfaction in the relationship, feeling disconnected with the partner, insecurity and low self-esteem,...

How to improve communication skills in relationships: Active Listening “Did you even hear what I just said?!” “Of course I did! What do you think I’ve been doing for last 15 minutes?” Sound familiar? You are not alone. A lot of couples start their arguments this way....

Couples Therapy: 5 Ways to Increase Intimacy & Have Better Sex   1. Date night- take each other out weekly or bi-weekly When was the last time you and your partner went on a date? Just because you co-exist in the same space daily, it doesn’t mean that you are...

Couples Therapy: Looking for the perfect partner? You are in luck.   What happened to my perfect partner? It seems that a lot of people, who come to see me for couples therapy, initially fell in love with the imagined, the best version of each other. And they...