Working as a relationship therapist, I often see clients with Borderline Personality Disorders (BPD) both in an individual and in a couples treatment.   My individual clients with BPD/BPD traits find me after years of difficult and unsuccessful relationships, feeling...

“You are not responsible for other’s feelings.” A lot of my clients recite this quote to me when I am doing EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy) sessions with my couples. I agree. I believe that all of us are responsible for our own experience, as I talked about in my...

Working as an EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy) couples therapist, I find that a large portion of my work tends to be demystifying the actions or statements made by each partner. In this article, we are going to look at some of the common things that both anxious and...

I’ve been getting a lot of questions about partners who are not emotionally available. A lot of my clients ask me to decipher their partners’ unpredictable and inconsistent behaviors. So I’ve decided to write a blogpost about the tips I give to my clients. Here are 15...

Are you being gaslighted? -7 different ways to tell if you are being gaslighted.   We talked about gaslighting briefly in my last blog post (5 ways to set healthy boundaries in romantic relationships). I wanted to dive in a little deeper with the topic in this...

One of the issues my clients struggle with the most is setting healthy boundaries with others, especially with their romantic partners. What is a boundary, you ask? Imagine having a protective bubble that you can surround/shield yourself with. You can make it as thick...

Have you heard of love addiction? I first learned about love addiction at a sex therapy training I took years ago. We were talking about sex addiction and someone asked about the difference between love and sex addiction to the instructor. The brief explanation was...

Cheating or infidelity can happen in any relationship or marriage. And there are several different reasons why people cheat, including; lack of sex or sexual satisfaction in the relationship, feeling disconnected with the partner, insecurity and low self-esteem,...

How to improve communication skills in relationships: Active Listening “Did you even hear what I just said?!” “Of course I did! What do you think I’ve been doing for last 15 minutes?” Sound familiar? You are not alone. A lot of couples start their arguments this way....

Couples Therapy: 5 Ways to Increase Intimacy & Have Better Sex   1. Date night- take each other out weekly or bi-weekly When was the last time you and your partner went on a date? Just because you co-exist in the same space daily, it doesn’t mean that you are...

Couples Therapy: Looking for the perfect partner? You are in luck.   What happened to my perfect partner? It seems that a lot of people, who come to see me for couples therapy, initially fell in love with the imagined, the best version of each other. And they...