Working as a relationship therapist, I often see clients with Borderline Personality Disorders (BPD) both in an individual and in a couples treatment. My individual clients with BPD/BPD traits find me after years of difficult and unsuccessful relationships, feeling unlovable and lost. They desperately want a healthy and long-lasting relationship but they lack any skills to create or maintain one. Couples with...[ read more ]
“You are not responsible for other’s feelings.” A lot of my clients recite this quote to me when I am doing EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy) sessions with my couples. I agree. I believe that all of us are responsible for our own experience, as I talked about in my previous IG post. But does that mean you can do...[ read more ]
Working as an EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy) couples therapist, I find that a large portion of my work tends to be demystifying the actions or statements made by each partner. In this article, we are going to look at some of the common things that both anxious and avoidant type partners say and the actual intended meaning behind them. But...[ read more ]
I’ve been getting a lot of questions about partners who are not emotionally available. A lot of my clients ask me to decipher their partners’ unpredictable and inconsistent behaviors. So I’ve decided to write a blogpost about the tips I give to my clients. Here are 15 ways to tell if you are with an emotionally unavailable partner. They...[ read more ]
Are you being gaslighted? -7 different ways to tell if you are being gaslighted. We talked about gaslighting briefly in my last blog post (5 ways to set healthy boundaries in romantic relationships). I wanted to dive in a little deeper with the topic in this blog post to raise some awareness as I frequently counsel clients, who are...[ read more ]
One of the issues my clients struggle with the most is setting healthy boundaries with others, especially with their romantic partners. What is a boundary, you ask? Imagine having a protective bubble that you can surround/shield yourself with. You can make it as thick and hard as you want if you need a strong and firm protection. Or make it...[ read more ]
Have you heard of love addiction? I first learned about love addiction at a sex therapy training I took years ago. We were talking about sex addiction and someone asked about the difference between love and sex addiction to the instructor. The brief explanation was that the love addicts tend to be obsessed on the specific person, while sex addicts...[ read more ]
Cheating or infidelity can happen in any relationship or marriage. And there are several different reasons why people cheat, including; lack of sex or sexual satisfaction in the relationship, feeling disconnected with the partner, insecurity and low self-esteem, feeling unappreciated or unimportant in the relationship. Some couples are able to overcome the affair and manage to stay together. But others...[ read more ]
How to improve communication skills in relationships: Active Listening “Did you even hear what I just said?!” “Of course I did! What do you think I’ve been doing for last 15 minutes?” Sound familiar? You are not alone. A lot of couples start their arguments this way. We are always feeling “unheard” and "ignored" by our partners. Why is that?...[ read more ]
What is the mind-body connection? You might have been hearing the term, “mind-body connection” in recent years. It sounds pretty self-explanatory, right? It really just means that the mind and body of a human being are interconnected. Therefore, what we do with our body impacts how we feel, and how we feel can have a positive or negative impact on...[ read more ]
