Do you and your partner…

  • No longer talk to each other?
  • Fight all the time?
  • Yell or scream at each other?
  • Avoid talking about serious issues?
  • Not know how to listen?
  • Talk over each other?
  • Not have sex anymore?
  • Miss having an emotional connection you once had with one another?

Do you or your partner…

  • Shut down when things get too emotional?
  • Always get upset when you are talking to one another?
  • Try to guess how the other person is feeling rather than asking?
  • Walk on eggshells in order to avoid getting into an argument?
  • Feel alone due to not being able to connect with your partner?
  • Confide in your friends about your problems more than in your partner?
  • Afraid of hurting the other person’s feelings?
  • Feel blamed or criticized all the time?

Is communication really the issue here?

Most couples struggle with some type of communication issues. And usually “we don’t know how to communicate with each other” is everyone’s answer I get to my question, “what kind of issues are you having in your relationship?”

Is communication really the issue here? No, you are having communication issues because you are not getting along. Not being able to talk to one another is one of the symptoms of a lack of intimacy and connection. If we don’t explore why we have communication issues in the first place, it is just like putting a Band-Aid on the issue and not actually treating it.

If you have already tried couples therapy but have not noticed many changes in your relationship or the issues came back again after the treatment, this might be the reason.

Therefore in my couples sessions, I help partners not only learn assertive and effective communication skills to promote better communication with one another, but more importantly, help them build/rebuild true intimacy and connection.

Are you ready to reclaim your relationship (in other words, WORK?) -Nope, a relationship is not supposed to be easy. It requires hard work! You must be willing to work.

In our sessions you will learn...

  • How to communicate more effectively utilizing assertive communication styles
  • How to build true intimacy
  • How to actively listen and make each other feel heard
  • How to validate each other’s feelings
  • How to identify the negative patterns you’ve been engaging in, which can be extremely harmful for the relationship
  • How to take ownership of your own contribution to the issues
  • How to break the unhealthy cycles and create healthy cycles by taking different actions
  • How to get your needs met by your partner
  • How to show up for your partner
  • How to be vulnerable with your partner
  • How to self-regulate intense emotions rather than acting out or always seeking reassurance from your partner

Liz Wee, LMFT, ATR

I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, a Registered Art Therapist, and a Board Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist. My approach is attachment-based/Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and I am trained in several other modalities such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), and Mindfulness. But I customize each treatment based on my clients’ needs. I am currently in the process of getting certified in Sex Therapy and EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy).

Learn more about me here.