Working as a relationship therapist, I often see clients with Borderline Personality Disorders (BPD) both in an individual and in a couples treatment. My individual clients with BPD/BPD traits find me after years of difficult and unsuccessful relationships, feeling...
“You are not responsible for other’s feelings.” A lot of my clients recite this quote to me when I am doing EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy) sessions with my couples. I agree. I believe that all of us are responsible for our own experience, as I talked about in my...
Working as an EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy) couples therapist, I find that a large portion of my work tends to be demystifying the actions or statements made by each partner. In this article, we are going to look at some of the common things that both anxious and...
I’ve been getting a lot of questions about partners who are not emotionally available. A lot of my clients ask me to decipher their partners’ unpredictable and inconsistent behaviors. So I’ve decided to write a blogpost about the tips I give to my clients. Here are 15...
Are you being gaslighted? -7 different ways to tell if you are being gaslighted. We talked about gaslighting briefly in my last blog post (5 ways to set healthy boundaries in romantic relationships). I wanted to dive in a little deeper with the topic in this...
One of the issues my clients struggle with the most is setting healthy boundaries with others, especially with their romantic partners. What is a boundary, you ask? Imagine having a protective bubble that you can surround/shield yourself with. You can make it as thick...
